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Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock: Pros & Cons

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Single parents are no longer an uncommon sight. There are many parents especially women that are having and raising a baby on their own. Having a baby out of wedlock is not uncommon but many wonder if it is good for the well being of the child. There are some pros and cons to having a baby out of wedlock.

Pros
When a person has a child out of wedlock they have a strong support system around them. They get close to friends and family that are willing to help out. The child will be loved by those around them and will learn how to build lasting relationships.

Parents are able to choose the way they want to raise their child. They do not have to compete with another and give the child mixed messages. This can lead to more consistency in the home and the child will know the rules and what is expected of them.

Children that are born to single parents out of wedlock often learn how to become more independent. They will learn that they do not need to be around another to be a complete person. They will learn to do things on their own and will learn to find ways to make themselves happy.

Cons
Children born out of wedlock are more likely to live in poverty. If one parent is not going to be around that is already half the resources that are lost to the child. Single parents are more likely to be on welfare and have been more likely to live in dangerous neighborhoods.

Children need to feel bonded with a parent at an early age. If a parent is absent there may be feelings of abandonment. The child is going to what to know why the other parent is not around and may blame themselves.

A single parent at one point will want to date. Everyone needs companionship. This can be an issue for their child. If a parent brings a number of different suitors around the child this can lead to confusion.

If the child is not included in the new relationship or feel that the new person in their parent’s life is coming before them this can lead to issues of attachment and security.

While every situation is different there are both pros and cons to having a child out of wedlock. Society does not view this as such as bad thing anymore and single parents are socially acceptable.

There are a number of people that are having children without getting married. Raising a child is not an easy thing to do whether the parents are together or not. A person needs to think long and hard if they are capable of raising a child with or without their partner.

There more issues in society that is largely affecting the population. Infidelity has become a real problem over the years. Infidelity is the act of being unfaithful to a spouse or a partner by having sexual relations with another person outside of the relationship.

Infidelity Statistics 2018

In the year 2017 infidelity had a negative effect on a number of relationships. In over one-third of all marriages, at least one or both of the partners admit that they have cheated. The number may be higher is some people were hiding the truth. Around 22 percent of men had admitted that they have cheated on their partner. Only 14 percent of women have admitted that they have cheated.

It seems that people are tempted by others in their place of employment. Thirty-six percent of people have admitted cheating on their significant other with a coworker. People that have previously cheated in their relationship are 350 percent more likely to cheat again. A person is the most likely to cheat after two years of marriage.

Business trips also offer an opportunity for those to stray outside of the marriage. Thirty-five percent of people have admitted that they have cheated while they were away on a business trip. Ten percent of all affairs have begun online and of those 40 percent of people have met up with their online lover to cheat on their significant other.

The reasons for cheating on a partner vary. In some cases it can be due to dissatisfaction with the current relationship and a person is looking to improve their sex life. In other cases, a person can be emotionally dissatisfied with their current relationships and is looking for someone to make them feel good. There are cases where people do grow apart and become distant from each other. This makes them more likely to seek an emotional or a physical connection with another person.

Infidelity can have a major impact on a relationship. There are many negative effects if a person finds out that they have been cheated on.

These that are cheated on often have trouble with their self-esteem. They may feel that they are not good enough or if they have done something differently their partner would not have strayed. They may blame themselves for the problems in their relationship and may have trouble moving forward.

One of the biggest things that will affect the relationship is the loss of trust. If a person has cheated their spouse will be wondering where they are going and may question who they are with. The marriage may not be able to survive this lack of trust and constant questioning.

Many people cannot handle the emotional impact that cheating has. They may feel like their world has been torn apart. A person may want to cry, yell, blame themselves, blame the other person, and even have feelings of sickness. This is normal and there is no set time limit for how long these emotions are going to last.

These are some of the negative effects that infidelity can have on a relationship. The trust of the relationship will be destroyed and in some cases, the relationship may not survive. If a person does choose to continue their relationship there are going to be some tough and trying times ahead.

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